There are certain times of the year that are BIG for new engagements – Christmas and New Year being one of those times. With that being the case I thought some of you may be interested in this…. What to do first after the engagement itself.
1. Tell your parents. Give them the honour of hearing the news first. Have the champagne ready to celebrate.
2. Make the calls. Before you log in to Facebook to update your relationship status or tweet your happy news, be certain everyone who should hear it from you personally has been called.
3. Get a manicure. Your finger and its sparkly new adornment will be getting a lot of attention.
4. Speaking of rings, get yours appraised and insured!
5. Set your wedding date. Get past the “big day” question by choosing a month, season or even just a year if you can’t agree immediately on an exact date.
6. Start thinking about who you’d like to be your bridesmaids/groomsmen – this might be easy for some and quite hard for others but don’t ask right away – just think about it for a few weeks. Then ask.
7. Have a first go your guest list. Before you even begin the venue search, nail down this magic number. Planners want to how many people you’re inviting so they can pair you with spaces (ballrooms, tents, etc.) that can accommodate head count. Packages are also priced in ranges based on guest minimums, so this will help you with the next step: budgeting.
8. Set a budget and start saving. It’s easy to get carried away planning for the happiest day of your life, but ask yourself, do you want to be paying for the wedding years after the honeymoon, or would you rather go house hunting?
9. Places, please! Figuring out where to hold the reception is hard work – especially in Christchurch at the moment. You may visit several venues before finding “the one.” Make this part of the planning as fun as possible by staying calm and organized. Create a spreadsheet (and consider sharing it in a Google Doc) with your fiancé to keep tabs on the venues you visit, what you like (or don’t like) about them, their prices, etc.
10. Buy a few bridal magazines. The Internet can be overwhelming when you’re wading through wedding websites. Magazines can help remedy that feeling. Pick one up and start folding pages, mark them with post-its, and have fun.
11. Relinquish control. Can you plan the entire wedding by yourself? No one can answer this question but you (and possibly your Mom). If you’re the type of person who’d rather not stress over the details, a wedding planner will help tremendously.
12. Start making contact with caterers and wedding photographers. Once the venue, caterer and wedding photographer are booked in you can start thinking about the fun stuff like THE DRESS!
13. Relax. Do your best to avoid any unnecessary stress. You don’t want anyone cracking Bridezilla jokes about you, right? Some days will feel completely overwhelming. When this happens, grab a latte, go for a pedicure and think about how amazing your wedding is going to be.